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Welcome to the Life’s Hierarchy Club blog, where members discuss issues and present factual information relevant to the D/s lifestyle. We look forward to you posting a blog. Please feel free to comment. We welcome your point of view.

SLAVE CONTRACTS

  • July 29, 2021
  • SIR D

Mestra and I recently hosted an online discussion on the subject of slave contracts. You might like to listen to the recording. It has been posted on Life's Hierarchy as a podcast. In the introduction to this discussion, we noted...

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WILL IT STILL BE CONSENT 2 YEARS FROM NOW?

  • June 24, 2021
  • SIR D

 In 2021 people with significant assets would be foolish to marry without a pre-nuptial agreement. Most smart people I know (and especially those who come together later in life) have one. I certainly have one. In 2021, only the foolish...

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A Kinky Definition

  • June 9, 2021
  • Mestra

During last nights discussion group we had a topic about Non Sexual Kink. It seemed to all of us to be an easy and quick topic .. but we quickly had to reconsider.  Our immediate reaction was ‘of course there...

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Compersion & Jealousy

  • June 5, 2021
  • Mestra

Jealousy can be a difficult habit to break. It is an anticipatory emotion to avoid someone taking what we value, usually a relationship.  Jealousy can include anger, fear, abandonment, grief, resentment, feelings of inadequacy, helplessness, humiliation and anxiety. Jealousy is...

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SHEDDING A GROTTY IMAGE

  • May 27, 2021
  • SIR D

This month’s blockbuster blog is not so much an observation or statement as it is a question. The question is – ‘How does BDSM shed its grotty image?’ Of course, in posing the question, I am implicitly implying that BDSM...

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You have to learn not to give a fuck

  • May 5, 2021
  • SIR D

There is an old parable that goes something like this – ''When we are young - we care what people think of us. When we are middle-aged – do not care what people think about us and when we are...

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LIVING A LEGITIMATE LIFESTYLE

  • May 5, 2021
  • SIR D

Over the past six months, I have conducted a number of interviews on the subject, MY LIFE – MY WAY. The core theme is that so long as it does not negatively impact anyone else – everyone has the right...

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Everyone has personal values. Which ones match yours?

  • April 17, 2021
  • Mestra

Whether we are consciously aware of them or not, everyone has personal values. The highest priority ones can be identified as personal core values. Personal values generate behaviour and dictate how we solve problems. Surprisingly, it’s not common practice to...

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Ways to temporarily counteract drop

  • April 10, 2021
  • Mestra

‘Drop’ is the depletion of hormones in the body and neurotransmitters in the brain after a peak in levels during play.  See my previous post for more info on recognising drop and what it is. Once you’ve recognised it, there...

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The single greatest way to counter drop …

  • April 8, 2021
  • Mestra

‘Drop’ is the depletion of hormones in the body and neurotransmitters in the brain after a peak in levels during play. They include adrenaline, oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin. Although mostly associated with slaves and submissives, anyone participating in play can...

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