LONG DISTANT POWER EXCHANGE

Maintaining any relationship is complicated. Maintaining a long-distance D/s or power exchange relationship can be a whole lot harder. In this missive, I examine strategies for maintaining a long-distance power exchange relationship, as discussed in the Life’s Hierarchy online DISCUSSION that took place on February 22, 2022. You can listen to the recording by visiting https://www.crowdcast.io/e/fz3e07sz.

LONG-DISTANCE POWER EXCHANGE – DEFINED

There are two elements to defining a long-distance power exchange relationship:

• A long-distance relationship.
• A power exchange relationship.

There are many types of long-distance relationships:

• Synchronicity or a-synchronicity 
• Singular or plural.
• Partner aware or partner not aware.
• Online only or online and offline.

 There are also various types of D/s or power exchange relationships:

• Casual vs 24/7
• Live in vs live-out
• Partial vs total
• Sex vs no sex

Each type of relationship has its own challenges and combining long-distance and power exchange create its own additional challenges. Three things are clear:

• No two relationships are ever the same 
• There is no ‘one-way’ to conduct an LDPER
• More complicated than many other relationship forms

Before discussing these challenges, it makes sense to highlight the attractions of such relationships.

THE ATTRACTIONS OF A LONG-DISTANCE D/s RELATIONSHIP

The attraction of long-distance power exchange relationships will vary by individual. However, they tend to include one or more of the following:

• Having a relationship when being together is not possible.
• More time to pursue other passions and interests.
• The opportunity to get to know each other.
• Reduced likelihood of confusing lust and love.
• The capacity to road test trust and develop patience.
• Addressing needs not met in an existing relationship.
• Providing time to focus on other relationships.

• Encourages creativity, communication and conflict resolution.
• Excitement.
• Less stressful commitment.
• Spending time.
• Integration with the day. 

ISSUES ASSOCIATED WITH A LONG-DISTANCE D/s RELATIONSHIP

Each relationship will have its own challenges, and each individual may have their own issues. Common issues in a long-distance-relationships, however, might relate to:

• Inconsistent goals.
• Poor communication.
• Variable trust. 
• Lack of intimacy.
• Lack of physical contact.
• Sexual incompatibility.
• Negative impact on self-esteem.
• Family issues.
• More frequent disputes. 
• More difficult to resolve disputes
• Less fun together.
• Falling into a routine.
• Limited potential to grow.

Common issues in a long-distance D/s relationship might also involve: 

• Morality (when other partners are not aware)
• Management (when the relationship supplements another)
• Supervision and enforcement.
• Punishment.
• Physical contact

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR A SUCCESSFUL LONG-DISTANCE POWER EXCHANGE RELATIONSHIP

Everyone and every relationship must find its own pathway to success. Strategies that have worked for many couples include the following:

• Set up dedicated email and social media accounts.
• Monitor these email and social media accounts.
• Ensure a good understanding of each other’s circumstances.
• Schedule regular contact and stick to the schedule.
• Ensure regular face time.
• Ensure total transparency and openness. 
• Catch up in real life from time to time. 
• Regularly check how each other is feeling.
• Ensure a safe place to communicate.
• Document rules and protocols.
• Remember the basics of aftercare.
• Get creative and think outside of the box.
• Plan each contact in advance.

It is also helpful to make the most of technologies like:

• Video conferencing.
• Eye in the sky (or home at least).
• Facetime.
• Tracking apps.
• Private texting.

It also helps to get creative, perhaps embracing the following:

• A chastity device can be fun.
• A locked collar can help.
• Setting regular tasks can be testing.
• Set un-usual grooming requirements.
• Detailed regular reporting.
• Innovative online sex.

IN CONCLUSION
A long-distance relationship is not my thing, but I can understand that they are necessary, fun and enticing for many people.

Hopefully, this missive provides some ideas about how to make such relationships successful. 
To find out a great deal more – I would env=courage you to watch this recording on the original Life’s Hierarchy DISCUSSION – https://www.crowdcast.io/e/fz3e07sz.  
 SIR D