Stilling the mind

One of the great attractions of a D/s relationship is the opportunity for the submissive to still their mind.

A Ritual is a meditative, focused activity or set of behaviors that can help a submissive connect to a particular feeling. Having a phrase to say before entering the Dominants house, washing their feet, asking permission before using furniture can all put a submissive into a submissive state of mind. Rituals can be performed like a meditation or mantra to benefit the submissive and prove focus and clarity.

(Good) pain or (good) fear can create endorphins and pleasure. It’s hard to think about the daily trials and tribulations of life while receiving an intense experience like wax, fire play or impact play.

Intense sex, intimacy and physical touch create endorphins, especially oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) and intense pleasure, again focusing the mind elsewhere than the daily grind.

Sensory deprivation (where hearing and sight are removed) focuses the mind on the remaining sense of touch and the anticipation of touch.

Service provides an opportunity for a submissive to centre themselves through menial tasks perhaps perceived as bigger than themselves, tasks that will make life easier for their Dominant. In this way, domestic service can (if it’s your thing) bring peace, a calm mind, and a sense of purpose and fulfillment.